Don't be scared of change...it doesn't bite

Many of my loyal readers proposed the video blogging idea to me on a few occasions. My friends and I will start a conversation and it will always turn to something BIGGER and deeper. I would love to drop some influential knowledge on you once in a while, so here I am...talking. Some might relate, some won't but that's the beauty of things, we are all different and that's fine.  

Yes when I'm speaking I'm all over the place, I do talk with my hands and I speak the best way I know how so don't judge my vocab. use, like I always say, English is not my first language...or second matter of fact lol.

Enjoy

People will act the way you allow them to

We have all been wounded by heartbreak, if you haven't don't even inconvenience yourself by reading the rest of this post. For the rest of us, reflect back at that individual you let in your life and how many occasions you were placed in a circumstance where you had to question their character/actions.

When a person is in love they tend to be blinded by a lot of effects. I have had my share of relationships/friendships and I recognize everything that I have been through I allowed, I wouldn't alter a single thing about my past experiences, they were lessons and obstacles I had to go through to find myself and decide what I want from the people I want to allow in my life.

As you grow older that long list you made back in the day about a significant other will minimize down to one thing and one thing only, happiness. It's no longer "sexy, sweet, nice eyes, big lips, etc..." As time goes by you will want to be with somebody that you want to grow with someone who will love you for you, treat you how you deserve to be treated and if you are not getting that get out quick because you will never be able to change someone.

So yes, quit the complaining, whatever situation you are in, you have allowed yourself to be in due to the fact that we have a choice and people will act the way you allow them to.

“Lessons From Life, by 90-year-old Regina Brett”

Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

When in doubt, just take the next small step.


Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.


Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch!


Pay off your credit cards every month.


You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.


Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.


It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.


Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.


When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.


Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.


It’s OK to let your children see you cry.


Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.


If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.


Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.


Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.


Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.


Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.


It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.


When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.


Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.


Over-prepare, then go with the flow.


Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.


The most important sex organ is the brain.


No one is in charge of your happiness but you.


Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’


Always choose life.


Forgive everyone everything.


What other people think of you is none of your business.


Time heals almost everything. Give time time.


However good or bad a situation is, it will change.


Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.


Believe in miracles.


God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.


Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.


Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.


Your children get only one childhood.


All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.


Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.


If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.


Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.


The best is yet to come.


No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.


Yield.


Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Mine

June 29th 2010 was my baby sister's High School graduation. It's pretty obvious to everyone including people that don't know us that we are extremly close. She's my everything. While sitting at her graduation with my mom and my best friend, it hit me.

I remembered the day we brought her home from the hospital in Morocco, the blanket she was wraped around and how she looked. I watched her grow to the beautiful, strong, mature and amazing woman that she is today, I got teary eyed, happy tears of course and I smiled because I am sooooooo proud of her and excited for our journey together in life.

I love you so much!

Your big sis,

Zineb

Forgiveness

My horoscope for today said this:

"...Forgive those who have hurt you and forget the pain you endured, because the negative is pain, but the positive is that it made you stronger."

Last night I had a conversation with a dear friend about how I react when  people cross/hurt/betray me, I established that the technique I deal with such hurt is revenge. I never seek the payback or look to hurt them on purpose, it, at all times seems to fall right on my lap and I have been guilty of taking advantage of the situation to make them feel the pain that they made me feel. In my mind I’m teaching them a lesson but looking back at my “eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth” behavior, I hope I went about my damage differently.

I strongly believe that it is better to let karma do it’s job and just walk away, yes as the victim, with my head held up high and no dirt on my hands.

I’m not perfect. Experiences are what shape me and you, good ones and bad ones, more bad ones than good because the bad ones are the ones that make us stronger.

XoXo

A new me