9/15/10

People will act the way you allow them to


We have all been wounded by heartbreak, if you haven't don't even inconvenience yourself by reading the rest of this post. For the rest of us, reflect back at that individual you let in your life and how many occasions you were placed in a circumstance where you had to question their character/actions.

When a person is in love they tend to be blinded by a lot of effects. I have had my share of relationships/friendships and I recognize everything that I have been through I allowed, I wouldn't alter a single thing about my past experiences, they were lessons and obstacles I had to go through to find myself and decide what I want from the people I want to allow in my life.

As you grow older that long list you made back in the day about a significant other will minimize down to one thing and one thing only, happiness. It's no longer "sexy, sweet, nice eyes, big lips, etc..." As time goes by you will want to be with somebody that you want to grow with someone who will love you for you, treat you how you deserve to be treated and if you are not getting that get out quick because you will never be able to change someone.

So yes, quit the complaining, whatever situation you are in, you have allowed yourself to be in due to the fact that we have a choice and people will act the way you allow them to.

7 comments:

Tia said...

Beautiful girl with a beautiful mind

Pauleanna said...

I am feeling this. It came at the right time! Thanks Neb ox

Clara said...

very true, it takes something major for a person to realize what their worth is. I mean you should always know what your worth is but it really does take something happening to undestand it. great post zineb!

Nicole said...

Real talk

Janine said...

Let the church say AMEN!

rez said...

Nice. It's not really you allowing them to act a certain way though. They're going to act how they are going to act no matter what. Like you said, you can't change people so by saying you're allowing them to act a certain way also alludes to you being able to make them act another way (which we both know won't happen).

It's more you allowing them to continue to be in your life or not (like you also said). I think that's definitely the key part.

Nebby said...

VERY TRUE!!!