1/23/11

Feeling Down????

It's definitely not the best feeling in the world, but unless you're heartless and cold, it happens to you too.
I find that the people who have huge hearts and fully care about certain things/people are the ones who are effected by this. I'm here to tell you that you are not the only one, to not let that feeling bring you down and that I found a way around it :)
All you have to do is not give a fuck!!!!! Of course it's so much easier said than done but hear me out, life waits for no one. Truth be told, you're wasting your time being angry/hurt/down. Should someone/something have enough power on YOUR life and be able to bring you down??? Hell no!
Try to put the anger and hurt behind you and keep on keeping on.
Eliminate all bad people from your life. Don't waste your time trying to figure out "why" and what the reason is behind certain things. I'm not sure about you but I have 0 time for bullshit, at this point of my life I have come to the conclusion that people will talk regardless, good and bad.
Switch the negative energy to a positive one, be thankful for what you do have, do something that makes you feel good, be around REAL friends, life is truly beautiful and you don't want to miss out, our time is not promised and afterall, we only get one life, so be a good person, be happy and live life to the fullest, you deserve it.

XO
Neb

23 comments:

Netty said...

Wow, thanks so much for sharing that. It's exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks doll :)

Sarah said...

chuch! amen! hallelujah!

Anonymous said...

if you don't give a fuck you will never learn how to deal with the problems and those feelings will keep coming back

i guess this is more of a temporary solution

Nebby said...

you can learn lessons and not give a fuk at the same time. This all depends on the situation of course... For example someone whom you are close to stabs you in the back. You learn the lesson of not letting people in so quickly but u also don't give a fuk about that person any more. Win win situation.

Anonymous said...

It is easier said than done after you've been hurt/disappointed time and time again but in the long run, it is better. When you don't give a fuck, you're less susceptible to pain. I also cosign the statement about not giving others the power to have such a negative impact on our lives.

Nebby said...

sweety, anyone who has been thru things, and God knows we all have, we tend to develop THICK "IDGAF" skin that protects us if we were to be in a similar situation again lol *hugs*

Anonymous said...

Real talk! However, sometimes people are down due to biochemical reasons.

Anonymous said...

please stop with these posts. there's a lot of bitches with fucked up lives that can only ask why, why them... and i'll tell u because a bitch trying to be independant is confused. first everything starts off in the kitchen, learn how to cook, second in the bedroom, learn how to keep your man happy, third is a bonus if u can somehow work, bring some bacon home... follow these steps and ur life should somehow improve btw if u need a guest blogger i'll consider it

Nebby said...

LMAO thanks but no thanks.

Kelz said...

Soooo, you're really gonna offer to be a guest blogger and you can't spell or use correct grammar........I mean honestly. Anywho, I agree with this %200, if you spend your life giving a fuck about everything bad everyone has done to you, they're running your life, not you. It all comes down to my favorite saying: forgive those maddafuckaz but never forget, because forgiving them is the only way you can move on.

Nebby said...

i cant spell or use correct grammar??
meh probably because English is my 3rd language ... Glad you liked it I guess.

Liz said...

Great post.
Lots of people think they are alone when feel lonely (<--- that sounds weird)
It happens to the best of the us.
Ive had my struggle (or ten) with this. When i actually stopped and evaluated the cause of my loneliness , ive noticed that its simply due to the fact that my heart is too big. Meaning i give a lot of myself to others more than myself (im always there for a friend in need, i go out of my way for others etc..). It kills me at times that others arent as considerate of my feelings/time.
I’ve had to learn not to expect others to do what i would do in return....yes it would be nice if they did...but not everyone is like me in that sense, so i cant expect it back all the time.
So...yes...you're right...its best not to focus on the negative. I think ANONYMOUS misinterpreted your IDGAF....my interpretation is ...yes acknowledge it....but dont dwell on it....cuz it will deplete your energy and leave u with an empty tank to continue on that amazing road trip that is LIFE.

Nebby said...

well said Liz!! *hugs*

Kelz said...

No no, the anonymous person who left that comment that made no sense and offered to be guest blogger.

Anonymous said...

wow very deep! watch out Oprah

Daisy Duck>Minnie Mouse said...

OMFG. What is with you ladies wanting to be beauty/advice/love/life gurus. What, is it the Toronto air? Travel more. This shit is so comical.
Are there really this many misguided and needy individuals that will turn to under 30s who "keep it real" for advice?
And the most common theme for an answer is "Just fck the haters and don't give a fck!" OR "Sweety, do what makes you happy in life, believe in yourself and above all fck the haters" lolol

Try this..."give a fck". If it bothers you or hurts you then it matters. Acting like shit doesn't matter to you and that you don't give a fuck is sustaining your inner issue. IF you truly didn't give a fck you wouldn't even bother typing/thinking about it. Don't be pretenders. Ppl like me will sniff you out and the universe is my limit from there.
If the basic elementary "advice" you find on this site and from other "helpful bloggers that love you all (lol)" will guide you through life then wow man God bless you then, have fun with this sh*t but don't play around too much 'cause you will get left behind honeys.

Nebby said...

This is the thing i don't think i'll ever understand, people like you that feel the way that you do and correct me if i'm wrong but you seem very passionate about the way that you feel which leads me to ask,why are yo here? is it to criticize something YOU don't relate to? That's a waste of your time my luv.
Given the fact i don't know who you are and I also could give 2 shits who you are, with all due respect, doesn't it make sense to keep away from things you are not interested in???
Anyway, glad you decided to share your opinion and I'm sure we'll see you back on here honey.

Lisa G. said...

*cues you be killin em by fab*

Batman> Superman said...

You're right. I do care about the message you're sending. Umm "passionate"? Yea ok if that's what you'd prefer but you're pushin it a lil. Like I said,if you don't give a fck then you wouldn't even bother. So obviously I do.
I already told you what my interest was. This "If you don't like it then say nothing and stay away shit" is bogus. That's ignorance. How can you know if you justly like or dislike something if you stay away? You can't deny that you have a re occurring theme of running from your problems and sweeping em under the rug aka "dont give a fck" and it's a straight up unhealthy message that's all I'm saying.
You've got ppl coming to your blog and they think you're attractive and most of em never met you but on some "I love everyone" shit they create all these ideas of what you're really like. No surprises, it's mindless and that's dope for you I don't even care about that 'cause why should I, but that does not mean that the things that you say make sense or are constructive.
I'm simply asking you ppl to be responsible for the messages you send and the influence you have on others. Is that hating? Is that asking too much? Are we getting too complicated now and I should just go away?
I don't understand the need to chase away people who disagree with you. If you were really about "doing your thing regardless", then be a bigger broad about it and welcome and discuss the criticism. Deal with it.
And now you're giving me advice about how to spend my time... Wooow don't let the profile views feed the monster. lol it's okay you've got one less wandering soul to save, I'm criticizing 'cause that's what people do, about one thing or the other ok? Is that ok or no? No worries I'm gooood thanks though you're too generous lol

Nebby said...

you know how i don't give a fuk? I didn't/I won't even bother reading your comment. You coming back here to check if i responded to you so u can respond back, tells me enough. lol
Anyway come back soon, you and I both know you will.

Anonymous said...

LMAO there's no way u didn't read that comment. Batman>Superman hit it right on the mark. i see he's getting a little under your skin but he surely does have a point and i highly doubt you'll approve this message

Nebby said...

No, I really didn't read it, I don't lie esp. not to an anonymous. How do you know it's a "he" by the way?

Pris said...

Real talk chérie, that's why I love you