6/11/11

Unrealistic Expectations...

"You are responsible for your own happiness.."

I know that someone needed to hear this today.
-Thank me later

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi - I am definitely glad to discover this. Good job!

JyOti MATHAROO said...

I effin' LOVE her!!!

Pauleanna said...

Glad you like. ox

Anonymiss said...

pfft, that's not right. so if you expect for someone to partake in your happiness or play a role in developing any kind of life with you then you are unrealistic? So what, I’m supposed to be happy with being a self sustained woman? I’m supposed to be happy being “just me”? I’m not supposed to expect anyone to grow WITH me?

Some people just come up short, no matter how hard they try, no matter how hard they struggle and battle life, it’s always “making due”. I hate this mentality of “me against the world”. You are supposed to have someone to grow with you and battle with you. Why would anyone need to be told to not complain about being a fatass if they are known on a first name basis at McDonalds... this is advice??? And FYI, some people have no choice but to work dead end jobs because they HAVE TO.
Life doesn’t present everyone with the same opportunities, not everyone is lucky enough to receive blessings and be given options to grow.

And while we’re on the topic, why do I have to “judge it” if I don’t like it? Isn’t everything a judgement really? Am I not being judged for not agreeing blindly with this random woman that thinks she has a grip on my life because she managed, after an hour, to come up with a 4 minute rant?

I'm not aiming this at any person, I'm just saying... judge away lol

Bob said...

Dear Anonymiss,
That was awesome. Your comment looked too long atfirst so I didn't want to read it lol, but I did and I fckn feeeel you, every word. I'm guessing this blog is just light airy fun though, I don't think it's supposed to be taken too seriously. I don't know,that sounds more potentially offensive than I want it to but that's the vibe I get. I mean,love it and judge it is the same action really, since all feelings are judgments. Anyway...

Anonymous said...

Dear Anonymiss and Bob,

You just mad. "some people have no choice but to work dead end jobs because they HAVE TO" NO. you always have a choice. You chose to work at a low paying job because you don't expect anything more of yourself. Life always presents everyone with opportunities and plenty of blessings and definitely options to grow, it is up to you to recognize these opportunites. It is up to YOU whether or not you want to be ignorant to YOUR potential. Your only as good as your weakest thought. If you think that you have lesser opportunities than others, then that is what you'll get. You make your own reality. Read a book. You need to have will and faith. A good example of someone who's overcome fear and ridicule is Martin Luther KING. Did he not struggle? Here's one thing, he didn't complain, and he didn't give up. So please, read a book and do something that makes you happy other than beating down people (ie, Pauleanna) who only wanted to share something with a good and very realistic message.

Peeeeace.

Anonymiss said...

nobody is beating anyone down, I'm allotted an opinion just as you are and as she is. Struggle is not something everyone is blessed to come out of. Think of all the people in the world that aren't in this country or a country where an option is available. I'm not mad, I'm realistic. And what is real to me, and what is real to you are two different things. you need to accept that. there are a lot of people that can't afford school, don't have the option or support to find routes to better themselves. Martin is one in a million, you must realize that. read a book, yeah ok, thanks for that advice. no one said i was giving up, I'm not even complaining, I'm stating a reality that a lot of people have to deal with.

mother may you said...

Anonymiss speaks that real once again.

Janine said...

Amen, Anonymiss. Sometimes the only options people have are to struggle or stop. Yes, if you have options that will put you in front of the 8 ball instead of behind it and you DON'T make use of them that's a tragedy of your own making...but a LOT of folk don't have it like that. A lot of folk are just trying to keep roofs over their heads and their families fed. What utopia do you live in, anonymous, where there is a blessing around every corner and all you have to do make it is pull yourself up by the bootstraps? I wanna put a down payment on a house in THAT neighborhood. I'm not coming down on Pauleanna or the message she's sending with this post. I know her heart is in the right place. All I am saying and all I think Anonymiss (and Bob, by extension) is saying is it ain't always that one dimensional.

And what's with the "read a book" comment? So, folks disagree with a message and suddenly their intelligence is in question? Now THAT is ignorant.