"...I've spent most of my life trying to avoid being hated. And I remember when I first started writing this blog and other columns, someone said it would take awhile for me to find my voice...I've spent a lot of hours lately trying to understand why we do the things we do. And as I've gained confidence in my understanding, I've ventured forth more and more often to provide my view of things. Generally I've had great responses to this writing, but every so often I get negative comment and I've noticed the tone of these has been more and more vitriolic as I've "found my voice".
I remember someone saying once you know you're hitting the right cords when you polarize your audience and people either hate you or love you. If you're in the middle, you're just boring...it's a little shocking when someone takes the time to comment that your writing is "tripe", "long and extremely wind baggy" and "self serving". On the other side, numerous people have also commented that they find my writing "thoughtful" and "insightful". As hard as it seems to be for me to accept, this must mean I'm doing something right. At least people are taking the time to comment. I guess I just have to develop a thicker skin."- Gord
I came across this piece on Gord's blog, I can def. relate to what he is saying, I have always been surrounded with successful, talented, beautiful inside and out friends/family members/acquaintances/coworkers who work hard and nothing is ever handed to them, I'm sure they can relate to this too. The only problem i have with people "hating" is the fact that they always hide behind an anonymous shield and they are the first ones to smile at you in public, I guess it's all part of growing up and developing thicker/careless skin.
PS: internet thugin'is NOT cute
xoxo,
Neb
*Investigating VIA IP address*
6/29/09
You Know You're Doing Something Right When...
"...I've spent most of my life trying to avoid being hated. And I remember when I first started writing this blog and other columns, someone said it would take awhile for me to find my voice...I've spent a lot of hours lately trying to understand why we do the things we do. And as I've gained confidence in my understanding, I've ventured forth more and more often to provide my view of things. Generally I've had great responses to this writing, but every so often I get negative comment and I've noticed the tone of these has been more and more vitriolic as I've "found my voice".
I remember someone saying once you know you're hitting the right cords when you polarize your audience and people either hate you or love you. If you're in the middle, you're just boring...it's a little shocking when someone takes the time to comment that your writing is "tripe", "long and extremely wind baggy" and "self serving". On the other side, numerous people have also commented that they find my writing "thoughtful" and "insightful". As hard as it seems to be for me to accept, this must mean I'm doing something right. At least people are taking the time to comment. I guess I just have to develop a thicker skin."- Gord
I came across this piece on Gord's blog, I can def. relate to what he is saying, I have always been surrounded with successful, talented, beautiful inside and out friends/family members/acquaintances/coworkers who work hard and nothing is ever handed to them, I'm sure they can relate to this too. The only problem i have with people "hating" is the fact that they always hide behind an anonymous shield and they are the first ones to smile at you in public, I guess it's all part of growing up and developing thicker/careless skin.
PS: internet thugin'is NOT cute
xoxo,
Neb
*Investigating VIA IP address*
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8 comments:
I LOVED THIS POST!! Nebby you are great, I have lived in this city my whole life and I heard about you the day you moved here, nothing but positive things, so why let the negatives even spoil 3 seconds of your day? you are fabulous hunny keep doing you and let the haters hate, without them there is no us, believe that!
I feel you on this, girl you can turn to a nun and people will STILL have something to say. when shit like this happens, you read it, laugh and keep going about your day. People hate on people for two reasons...
1. Jealousy (which is obvious in this case because of who you are)
2. Insecurity (because they are not happy in their own skin)
you know you are hawt, breath in, breath out POOF! they are gone just like that lol
I am going thru a similar situation and all i can say is things only bother you when they are NOT true, if something was true that was said or heard or whatever then you wouldn't care.
aw you ladies are amazing! lmao @ the nun coment!
people that live a certain life always find themselves in a smiliar situation, you are very social and are around people who are well know, people will ALWAYS have something to say about you, and of course they will never be able to tell you to your face. The prettiest girls are always the most dangerous lol
I strongly agree with all the comments ppl will h8 bcuz they want to b just like you, young, successful & fab
I happen to have a different look on this because I find myself in similar situations many times with other females. my friend circle is 90% males 10% females, when an outsider female is looking in she notices me and males, she might want one of them and I either have dated them or I am friends with them which causes them to judge/hate. Judging is never right, but it always happens, there is no way around it. As "*~*Miz_Carla*~*" said, if its not true it will indeed bother you, which shows that you are human and it is foul talk, if it does not affect you then ______ you know the rest. Keep your head up and keep the blog rolling, i do not know you nor have I heard anything about you, but I happen to be a frequent reader and I relate to many of your posts, with that said I hope you see the good in the bad.
thing of this nature happen no matter what and you can not do or say anything to change a jealous mind, embrace it :)
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