10/5/09

Boys Vs Men

I laugh about this with my close friends all the time. Boys need to grow the fuck up and know how to act. It's like they need us so bad but they don't know how to go about to satisfy us. I'm not just talking sexually, I'm talking sexually, emotionally, mentally and everything in between. When they "fuck up" you cut them off, they go INSANE. They want to do anything in their power to get you to speak to them again, I'm not sure if it's because they really miss you or just an ego thing. When they fuck up and you take em back over and over again, they get used to getting babied and they of course fuck up again, because guess what? because your lonely ass who doesn't know how much you're worth WILL take them back. As soon as your "bitch please" (as i like to call it) clock goes off and you say you know whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat...I'm done, you make the big move to cut the shit off, all hell breaks loose, but that's not what's funny no no. what's funny is NOW is when you realize the difference between a boy and a man. I'm a strong believer of "people make time for things they want to make time for" theory. A man will do ANYTHING to get you back, he will show you, yes i fucked up, i know i fucked up before, i know you took me back, i know i took advantage of the sito and i proooooomise you that if you take me back this ONE LAST time i will be your everything. A man won't just say this shit. THEY SHOW IT! Example: they will send you flowers, they send you gifts, they wait for you outside your door to just talk to you, they send you emails, texts, hell they even call your sister and beg her for advice. A boy on the other hand... SMH ...he will only do what he "thinks" will work. He might send you a text expressing how sorry he is, hell he might even call you and tell you how much he misses you but *jay z voice* THAT ABOUT IT The point I'm trying to make here is a man will continue trying by using different yet creative techniques ... a boy will use one technique and keep trying it over and over again hoping it would work. A girl will take the boy back. A woman keeps it moving ;) Let that marinate.

12 comments:

Tasha said...

I CAN RELATE!!!!!!!!!!!! this was good!

bryan be. • TheLegendsLeague • said...

Example: they will send you flowers, they send you gifts, they wait for you outside your door to just talk to you, they send you emails, texts, hell they even call your sister and beg her for advice.
A boy on the other hand... SMH

You're sending a mixed message to boys here, Neb. I think they also need to understand that these types of attempts don't negate wrongdoings or justify things that they can't rationalize their way out of. It's more important to be a man in your mind before you can be a man in your actions. I know a lot of "men" who have grown up things and create the aura of being grown. Hell, they'll do everything you can imagine. But mentally they'll be the first to admit (to their boys) that they're the furthest thing from it.

An intellect, common respect, and courtesy are generally the easiest ways to distinguish a man from a boy. Everything else is too easily listed and acted upon for a boy trying to play a role.

In my opinion, a man wouldn't fuck up enough to put himself in the position to have to do anything to 'show he's sorry'. But if he did, the difference is in his ability to navigate through the tactics and how to present them than it is in just carrying them out.

Alright.. I'll stop.

Gabster said...

this was excellent! I know a FEW girls who need to read this. pretty picture too. ;)

Nebby said...

I FULLY AGREE W U BE!! if you see the last thing i said in the message is that a woman will just keep it moving. I know everyone makes mistakes but to make the same mistake over and over and over again NO, you're right those thingd DO NOT justify "man actions" some girls get blinded by the glits and glamour of certain doings and fall for the same trap. "...a woman will keep it moving" ;) i luv u bryan! you are half man half amazineb lol

Mafa said...

I'm afraid I have to agree with bry here. As far as I'm concerned any slick rick can turn on their little don juan demarco swag and pretty it all up for me and be 'a man' about fucking up. I do understand and agree that a boy would not be that suave and they just keep pulling out the tired lines u would hear in high school. I agree 100% with bry though ' An intellect, common respect, and courtesy are generally the easiest ways to distinguish a man from a boy.' Well put. As a female that has been burned time and time again I regard all men as wolves in sheeps clothing but I've slowly been trying to find the ones that can in fact be and act like real men.

Natosh Monroe said...

I liked this..♥

♥ Donna Vitan said...

Clearly, when taking back a man/woman should be based on their merits but their actions speak louder than any apology or card they give you.

The idea is that if you want something bad enough, you do whatever it takes to get it and if doesn't work out... you can go on with your life knowing that you tried you damndest but it wasn't good enough, or maybe realize that it just wasn't meant to be at all.

Lauryn said...

Ur blog rocks NEBBY!!
The topics you discuss are so real and so damn funny i love it!!

elizabeth said...

i lovee this post definately one of my favorites.

Lizza V.

AYO! stephie said...

OMGGGG.

" When they "fuck up" you cut them off, they go INSANE. They want to do anything in their power to get you to speak to them again... "

I'm going through this right now =| this BOY is on some odee type shit & I swear if I get another lame ass text from him, all these ladie-like tendencies are gonna go out the window, jus like his ass.

i <3 your blog (:
so relatable.

Deedz said...

this is soooo true

Janine said...

I wholeheartedly agree with Bryan on this one.